| Those words strike the fear of God in the heart of | | | | space. NO CALLS, NO EMAIL, NO TEXT, until such |
| any woman who hears them and almost every | | | | time he has decided the space issue has passed. |
| woman has. Your head spins. Your heart races. What | | | | Trust me - you will know when that is. The more |
| does it mean??? I'll tell you what it means, and you | | | | space you put between you, the faster it will come. |
| probably won't like it. It means he's thinking about | | | | If you have not heard from him in two weeks, pack |
| ending the relationship, but he's either not totally sure, | | | | up the things he left at your place and have a friend |
| or he doesn't have the balls to dump you outright. | | | | drop them at his office. The silence speaks clearly, |
| However, when you hear those words, your next | | | | your relationship is over. However, more likely you will |
| steps will either save your relationship or send him | | | | hear from him within a few days. He will be so |
| running for the hills. | | | | befuddled by your absence he will call just to see if |
| Below are four things to do if he says "I just need | | | | you're alive. Keep it short. No relationship while he still |
| space." | | | | needs space. |
| 1. Stay 100% totally cool. Think Samuel L. Jackson | | | | 4. Do not under any circumstances become booty |
| cool. He is going to expect a big upset. Give him just | | | | call during a period of "space". Be too busy doing |
| the opposite. | | | | wonderfully fabulous things to have time to even |
| "You know, that surprises me a little, but now that | | | | consider being available at 10:30 on Wednesday night |
| you mention it, I think it's probably a really good idea. | | | | - and I mean that - really be too busy doing fabulous |
| I've really been short changing some of my other | | | | things. You know you've neglected your friends. You |
| relationships." | | | | know you put off taking that dancing class you were |
| 2. Where ever you are when this conversations | | | | interested in. Get out there and live an interesting life. |
| takes place, excuse yourself, get up and leave. Now, | | | | The best antidote to a man who needs space is |
| the key to making this work, is again, refer to #1. | | | | being interesting, alluring, and totally unavailable. If he |
| Stay cool. When you leave, you do not want him to | | | | calls and wants to "hook-up" politely let him know, |
| think you are fleeing. You want to be in control of | | | | you are too tired and sore from your rock climbing |
| your emotions. Kiss him on the cheek, thank him for | | | | class. |
| dinner, leave him with the tab, and say, "I think my | | | | The truth is that if he says he needs more space, |
| staying here just feels a little awkward right now. I | | | | that is a good indicator you are quite possibly over |
| really want to give you what you need. So, I'm just | | | | investing your time and energy into the relationship. |
| going to take off." Smile confidently and walk. | | | | Let that be an indicator that you need to adjust your |
| 3. Do not ask questions. Please do not start quizzing | | | | course and give him the opportunity to pursue you a |
| him about the parameters of your new spacial | | | | bit. Men are a bit like dogs. If you chase them they |
| agreement. Even though you think you might die if | | | | run, but if you walk away, they will almost always |
| you don't know the new rules, don't ask. Take some | | | | follow you down the street. |
| initiative and set the new rules yourself. Space means | | | | |